February 2026
How to Choose a Therapist When Sex Is Part of What You’re Working On
When sex is one of the issues in therapy: low desire, mismatched libido, porn use, infidelity, erectile or orgasm difficulties, painful sex, shame, trauma, orientation/identity questions, or just feeling stuck, it can be hard to know where to start. The stakes feel higher. You may be concerned about being judged, misunderstood, or pressured into someone else’s values. The good news: there are therapists who are trained, ethical, and genuinely helpful in this area. The trick is knowing how to vet them. Below is a practical guide to finding a therapist who is competent with sexual concerns and a good fit
Listen to Tim White on Beyond the Couch!
Tim White joins Beyond the Couch for a thoughtful and approachable conversation on sexual health. Drawing on his expertise in sex therapy, relationship trauma, and sex addiction, Tim breaks down the six core principles of sexual health into practical takeaways therapists can apply in their work, all while keeping the discussion engaging and refreshingly easy to talk about. Listen To Tim White Now
October 2025
Sacred Healing: Overcoming Infidelity
Sacred Healing: Overcoming Infidelity Through Biblically Informed, Emotionally Enhanced, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Infidelity is one of the most devastating experiences a person or couple can endure. It fractures trust, destabilizes identity, and leaves lasting emotional scars. Whether you have been betrayed or engaged in a form of infidelity, recovery is possible, and healing can be found. Through a trauma-informed, evidence-based approach, couples can rebuild their relationship or move forward in peace. This process does not erase the hurt, but it offers a pathway to healing by incorporating proven therapeutic methods and Biblical truths, helping to restore both emotional
January 2025
Accountability Relationships for Compulsive Sexual Behavior
In my therapy practice, I often hear about personal experiences of accountability. Usually, though, it’s a description of failed accountability, especially when the accountability issue is compulsive sexual behavior. Let’s explore accountability from the perspective of being set up for success. Accountability can be defined as “an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions” (Webster), and as “acknowledgment and assumption of responsibility for actions, . . . (Wikipedia). Further, accountability for husbands in a marriage is set up for success by considering the following elements: Intentional/voluntary – Husbands, enter an accountability relationship by your own
November 2024
6 Steps to Handling Mistakes in Parenting
Much is written about parenting, what to do, how to do it, when to do it, and so on. I know there are resources to help parents navigate their shortcomings, but they don’t seem popular or accessible. So, I thought I’d write up something on the topic and how I handle things with my kids. I tell clients all the time that I believe I am a good therapist; however, I am by no means a perfect husband or father. So what do we do when we hit our own negative defaults and wind up creating some sort of emotional
Privacy, Secrecy, Transparency, and Authenticity: What does all this have to do with Good Faith?
By Tim White Disclaimer! I am writing this blog from the perspective that the partners in this scenario are working toward connecting, resolving, rebuilding trust, and healing/forgiving and that the person who has gone outside of the agreed boundaries in sex or communication* is genuinely showing up in good faith to work through the process. I am in no way proclaiming that a betrayed partner should stay in a relationship that is continuing to be deceitful, manipulative, coercive, or abusive. Further, let’s address * the really long but kinder way to say betrayer, cheater, liar, or two-faced %@*&^%#$!!@#$! So, please
July 2024
6 Principles of Sexual Health
By: Tim White, MA, LMFT, LSOTP, ASAT, APTT, CST Student Preface I have found the concept of sexual health principles (Braun-Harvey & Vigoritio, 2015) fascinating and helpful in practice over the last few months. As many of my clients know, I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. As many of my clients know, I am a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist. This certification has given me the insight and ability to help many clients struggling with their sexual behavior. While I am grateful for this training, I have resolved to go further than just helping people with problematic sexual behavior and
February 2023
From Discovery Through Recovery
There are many circumstances in life in which it is intuitive to determine what actions to take to resolve a problem. Discovering that a trusted life partner is emotionally or sexually involved with another person or that they are involved in a sexually compulsive behavior like pornography use isn’t one of those circumstances. As individuals and couples, we are designed for intimate connections, with life commitment and marriage being the most intimate. I like to explain it using the concept of power. We have in us an inborn, God-given, DNA-structured design and desire to be the most powerful intimate connection
