There are many circumstances in life in which it is intuitive to determine what actions to take to resolve a problem. Discovering that a trusted life partner is emotionally or sexually involved with another person or that they are involved in a sexually compulsive behavior like pornography use isn’t one of those circumstances.

As individuals and couples, we are designed for intimate connections, with life commitment and marriage being the most intimate. I like to explain it using the concept of power. We have in us an inborn, God-given, DNA-structured design and desire to be the most powerful intimate connection in our partners’ life. Discovering that someone or something else has become powerful for an intimate partner can shake the very foundation of how you see yourself, your relationship, and life itself. My 15-plus years’ experience of helping individuals and couples recover allows me to speak a word of confidence into you that you can take directed actions from discovery through recovery as an individual and/or as a couple to achieve full recovery.

This blog is a multi-part series intended to outline the basic principles of the process of recovery from the point of discovery that I use to help people cope with discovery and achieve recovery. This is not intended to be comprehensive, but merely some basic principles. The order of presentation does not indicate the order of your recovery process. Each individual and couple should proceed in their recovery in a customized way with a highly trained and highly specialized therapist as a guide.

I will begin with a deeper explanation of power because, upon discovery, a life partner is typically trying to make sense of the senseless.

You can refer to my next blog titled Making Sense of the Senseless to continue this series.

Call us today at Dr. White and Associates if you need help navigating the process of discovery through recovery.

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