Chieftain

You've had this fight before. Maybe not these exact words, but this exact shape. It starts about the dishes, or the schedule, or something one of you said in front of the kids. Ten minutes in, you're not even talking about that anymore. You're talking about whether you matter to each other. If this feels familiar, you're not imagining it, and you're not doing marriage wrong. Most couples who feel stuck in a loop aren't actually failing to communicate. They're communicating clearly. It's just that the real conversation is happening one level below the one they think they're having. What