April 2026
Rethinking Sex Addiction Terminology
I used to use the term sex addiction, but that seems too condemning now. I prefer the terms compulsive sexual behavior, problematic sexual behavior, or unwanted sexual behavior. The shift from the term “sex addiction” to phrases like “compulsive sexual behavior,” “problematic sexual behavior,” or “unwanted sexual behavior,” reflects more than just a change in vocabulary—it signals a broader evolution in how trained therapists, researchers, and individuals understand human sexuality, agency, and relational distress. Language tends to shape perception, and in this case, it can either reinforce negative stigma or create space for nuance, compassion, and effective care. “Sex addiction”
February 2026
When the Laundry Kills the Mood
Sexual desire, ADHD, and the weirdly intimate battlefield of household chores There’s a special kind of heartbreak in modern adulthood: you finally have a sliver of time, you’re actually feeling a little spark… and then you walk past the overflowing sink, the laundry mountain, or the sticky counter, and your body quietly closes the tabs. For many couples, chores don’t just create conflict—they shape desire. And when ADHD is in the mix, that intersection gets even more intense: not because anyone is lazy or uncaring, but because ADHD changes how attention, time, overwhelm, motivation, and follow-through work in the
How to Choose a Therapist When Sex Is Part of What You’re Working On
When sex is one of the issues in therapy: low desire, mismatched libido, porn use, infidelity, erectile or orgasm difficulties, painful sex, shame, trauma, orientation/identity questions, or just feeling stuck, it can be hard to know where to start. The stakes feel higher. You may be concerned about being judged, misunderstood, or pressured into someone else’s values. The good news: there are therapists who are trained, ethical, and genuinely helpful in this area. The trick is knowing how to vet them. Below is a practical guide to finding a therapist who is competent with sexual concerns and a good fit
Listen to Tim White on Beyond the Couch!
Tim White joins Beyond the Couch for a thoughtful and approachable conversation on sexual health. Drawing on his expertise in sex therapy, relationship trauma, and sex addiction, Tim breaks down the six core principles of sexual health into practical takeaways therapists can apply in their work, all while keeping the discussion engaging and refreshingly easy to talk about. Listen To Tim White Now
January 2025
Accountability Relationships for Compulsive Sexual Behavior
In my therapy practice, I often hear about personal experiences of accountability. Usually, though, it’s a description of failed accountability, especially when the accountability issue is compulsive sexual behavior. Let’s explore accountability from the perspective of being set up for success. Accountability can be defined as “an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions” (Webster), and as “acknowledgment and assumption of responsibility for actions, . . . (Wikipedia). Further, accountability for husbands in a marriage is set up for success by considering the following elements: Intentional/voluntary – Husbands, enter an accountability relationship by your own
