February 2026
When the Laundry Kills the Mood
Sexual desire, ADHD, and the weirdly intimate battlefield of household chores There’s a special kind of heartbreak in modern adulthood: you finally have a sliver of time, you’re actually feeling a little spark… and then you walk past the overflowing sink, the laundry mountain, or the sticky counter, and your body quietly closes the tabs. For many couples, chores don’t just create conflict—they shape desire. And when ADHD is in the mix, that intersection gets even more intense: not because anyone is lazy or uncaring, but because ADHD changes how attention, time, overwhelm, motivation, and follow-through work in the
How to Choose a Therapist When Sex Is Part of What You’re Working On
When sex is one of the issues in therapy: low desire, mismatched libido, porn use, infidelity, erectile or orgasm difficulties, painful sex, shame, trauma, orientation/identity questions, or just feeling stuck, it can be hard to know where to start. The stakes feel higher. You may be concerned about being judged, misunderstood, or pressured into someone else’s values. The good news: there are therapists who are trained, ethical, and genuinely helpful in this area. The trick is knowing how to vet them. Below is a practical guide to finding a therapist who is competent with sexual concerns and a good fit
Listen to Tim White on Beyond the Couch!
Tim White joins Beyond the Couch for a thoughtful and approachable conversation on sexual health. Drawing on his expertise in sex therapy, relationship trauma, and sex addiction, Tim breaks down the six core principles of sexual health into practical takeaways therapists can apply in their work, all while keeping the discussion engaging and refreshingly easy to talk about. Listen To Tim White Now
October 2025
Sacred Healing: Overcoming Infidelity
Sacred Healing: Overcoming Infidelity Through Biblically Informed, Emotionally Enhanced, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Infidelity is one of the most devastating experiences a person or couple can endure. It fractures trust, destabilizes identity, and leaves lasting emotional scars. Whether you have been betrayed or engaged in a form of infidelity, recovery is possible, and healing can be found. Through a trauma-informed, evidence-based approach, couples can rebuild their relationship or move forward in peace. This process does not erase the hurt, but it offers a pathway to healing by incorporating proven therapeutic methods and Biblical truths, helping to restore both emotional
January 2025
Accountability Relationships for Compulsive Sexual Behavior
In my therapy practice, I often hear about personal experiences of accountability. Usually, though, it’s a description of failed accountability, especially when the accountability issue is compulsive sexual behavior. Let’s explore accountability from the perspective of being set up for success. Accountability can be defined as “an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions” (Webster), and as “acknowledgment and assumption of responsibility for actions, . . . (Wikipedia). Further, accountability for husbands in a marriage is set up for success by considering the following elements: Intentional/voluntary – Husbands, enter an accountability relationship by your own
November 2024
Privacy, Secrecy, Transparency, and Authenticity: What does all this have to do with Good Faith?
By Tim White Disclaimer! I am writing this blog from the perspective that the partners in this scenario are working toward connecting, resolving, rebuilding trust, and healing/forgiving and that the person who has gone outside of the agreed boundaries in sex or communication* is genuinely showing up in good faith to work through the process. I am in no way proclaiming that a betrayed partner should stay in a relationship that is continuing to be deceitful, manipulative, coercive, or abusive. Further, let’s address * the really long but kinder way to say betrayer, cheater, liar, or two-faced %@*&^%#$!!@#$! So, please
March 2020
Struggling with Sexual Temptation as a Married Man? Part 5
Previously, I presented Proverbs 5 as God’s design for husbands to make sense of sexual temptation in marriage, and to further discover effective antidotes to prevent empowering the sexual temptation experience. God’s design is to empower a man’s experience of his wife, thereby disempowering the experience of sexual temptation. A husband needs to choose to rejoice in, be satisfied by, and be captivated by his wife, exclusively. Wives are designed to thrive in a context of knowing their husbands are making these choices. A fourth design parameter to consider comes from 1 Peter 3:7 where we find a verse stating
Struggling with Sexual Temptation as a Married Man? Part 4
Previously, I presented Proverbs 5 as God’s design for husbands to make sense of sexual temptation in marriage, and to further discover an effective antidote to the experience. The first design antidote is to choose to rejoice in your wife. The second design antidote is to choose to experience physical, sensual, and sexual satisfaction exclusively with your her. The third is to choose to be captivated in your wife. The scripture in Proverbs 5:19 states in most versions ‘may you be captivated by her love.’ Notice that the scripture does not include choosing to be captivated by physical characteristics. It
