February 2026
How to Choose a Therapist When Sex Is Part of What You’re Working On
When sex is one of the issues in therapy: low desire, mismatched libido, porn use, infidelity, erectile or orgasm difficulties, painful sex, shame, trauma, orientation/identity questions, or just feeling stuck, it can be hard to know where to start. The stakes feel higher. You may be concerned about being judged, misunderstood, or pressured into someone else’s values. The good news: there are therapists who are trained, ethical, and genuinely helpful in this area. The trick is knowing how to vet them. Below is a practical guide to finding a therapist who is competent with sexual concerns and a good fit
Listen to Tim White on Beyond the Couch!
Tim White joins Beyond the Couch for a thoughtful and approachable conversation on sexual health. Drawing on his expertise in sex therapy, relationship trauma, and sex addiction, Tim breaks down the six core principles of sexual health into practical takeaways therapists can apply in their work, all while keeping the discussion engaging and refreshingly easy to talk about. Listen To Tim White Now
October 2025
Sacred Healing: Overcoming Infidelity
Sacred Healing: Overcoming Infidelity Through Biblically Informed, Emotionally Enhanced, Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy Infidelity is one of the most devastating experiences a person or couple can endure. It fractures trust, destabilizes identity, and leaves lasting emotional scars. Whether you have been betrayed or engaged in a form of infidelity, recovery is possible, and healing can be found. Through a trauma-informed, evidence-based approach, couples can rebuild their relationship or move forward in peace. This process does not erase the hurt, but it offers a pathway to healing by incorporating proven therapeutic methods and Biblical truths, helping to restore both emotional
January 2025
Accountability Relationships for Compulsive Sexual Behavior
In my therapy practice, I often hear about personal experiences of accountability. Usually, though, it’s a description of failed accountability, especially when the accountability issue is compulsive sexual behavior. Let’s explore accountability from the perspective of being set up for success. Accountability can be defined as “an obligation or willingness to accept responsibility or to account for one's actions” (Webster), and as “acknowledgment and assumption of responsibility for actions, . . . (Wikipedia). Further, accountability for husbands in a marriage is set up for success by considering the following elements: Intentional/voluntary – Husbands, enter an accountability relationship by your own
November 2024
Privacy, Secrecy, Transparency, and Authenticity: What does all this have to do with Good Faith?
By Tim White Disclaimer! I am writing this blog from the perspective that the partners in this scenario are working toward connecting, resolving, rebuilding trust, and healing/forgiving and that the person who has gone outside of the agreed boundaries in sex or communication* is genuinely showing up in good faith to work through the process. I am in no way proclaiming that a betrayed partner should stay in a relationship that is continuing to be deceitful, manipulative, coercive, or abusive. Further, let’s address * the really long but kinder way to say betrayer, cheater, liar, or two-faced %@*&^%#$!!@#$! So, please
February 2023
From Discovery Through Recovery
There are many circumstances in life in which it is intuitive to determine what actions to take to resolve a problem. Discovering that a trusted life partner is emotionally or sexually involved with another person or that they are involved in a sexually compulsive behavior like pornography use isn’t one of those circumstances. As individuals and couples, we are designed for intimate connections, with life commitment and marriage being the most intimate. I like to explain it using the concept of power. We have in us an inborn, God-given, DNA-structured design and desire to be the most powerful intimate connection
Making Sense of the Senseless
This is a continuation of my blog series titled From Discovery Through Recovery. I will begin with a deeper explanation of the power of connection because, upon discovery, a life partner is typically trying to make sense of a circumstance that seems senseless. As individuals and couples, we are designed for intimate connections, with life commitment and marriage being the most intimate of those connections. I like to explain it using the concept of power. We have in us an inborn, God-given, DNA-structured design and desire to be the most powerful intimate connection in our partners’ life. Discovering that someone
April 2020
What Effect is the Quarantine Having on My Relationship with My Partner?
Well like a lot of things in life the answer is that it depends, and I would like to put my thoughts and opinions out for those interested. I’ll start with being quarantined together. I know for some this has been an enhancement for their relationship and for some it has caused significant strife. In the case of the enhancement, it is due to lessened stress at work (furlough) for one person in the couple and therefore more attention being able to be given to the partner still working and that partner’s emotions. In the case of the increase in
